marriage
While my cousin, Hasmin, ate and I were having a little chit chat last night. Hasmin blurted out that Apple is getting married. She said that Tita Nida texted her and said that Apple will be tying the knot soon. And that freaked me out.
Apple is just 22 years old, barely an adult. I know that she can decide and pursue for what her mind as well as her heart wants but there are things that she still needs to enjoy before she finally settle down. Nobody in the family know about the details why she's going to get married soon and why the hell Tita Nida reacted that way (normally she would freak out and oppose every idea of any of her children getting married.) Last night, the text was so.. Plain.. Normal and calm (?) Anyway, we can't help but to conclude.. and whatever situation we try to imagine we end up having one conclusion-- that Apple is pregnant.
It was just like yesterday, when all of my cousins would be playing around and tease one another….. Now one by one they are becoming wives and mommies. They are shall we say, being snatched by outsiders. Hehehehe..
There's going to be a drastic change once she becomes a wife. Imagine? From being a girlfriend to being a wife? You would spend every waking hour with that person-- taking care of him, serving him. Accepting all his faults and Living with it for better or for worst. Knowing things that you haven't discovered when you were still boyfriend/girlfriend. Discovering and accepting bad habits. WHEW! It's going to be a tough job. We don't really know about her boyfriend for we haven't met him yet… (Just like in Evelyn's case)
Marriage is a special contract of permanent union between a man and a woman. Agreeing to establish conjugal and family life. It is not a mere paper that can easily be torned, burned, or disregarded. It is a lifetime commitment -- (as long as the divorce decree hasn't become a law) it is a commitment that both of you will always cherish one another -- observe fidelity, honesty and respect. Building and raising a family is a HUGE responsibility -- and I'm not sure whether she is ready or not. I guess, this is her destiny. This is meant to be. And if ever Apple is pregnant-- whether that is planned or otherwise.. it is unstoppable that she has to grow up fast. I would have talked about the effect of Pre-Marital Sex but then, we are still not sure where she is indeed going to be a mommy soon.. I just hope that things will be OK. And that she will be happy.
How do you determine whether or not he is the one that you want to spend your lifetime with?
posted by jaded fool @ 3:23 PM
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