rants and ramblings

married life

Just what I have thought, married life is not an easy path. So many difficulties are awaiting the couple before they reach what you call -- golden years. Not only on the part of the wife, but also on the part of the husband. You do not marry a single human, you marry a family. Instant adjustments are required in order to adapt yourself of the fact that you are now a member of a new household. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it is really hard not to be in good terms with the family of your spouse. It is going to be a tough life.

Meddling is an ordinary problem between the in-laws and the spouse. Usually it is the mother in law that meddles a lot. There's no such thing as a perfect relationship, once in a while there's going to be rows.. and arguments. In our family, if ever there would be arguments it's going to be about the grandchildren. My sister in law has moods (so does everybody else..) and sometimes, she can really be childish and difficult. And those times, the kids are always affected. There are times when my father and my mother wants to take care of the kids or have them in our house, but my sister-in-law wouldn't let us borrow them. But aside from that--- we have a harmonious relationship with her. (Hey! We are nice folks, you know?)

I guess, I feel sorry for my cousins who are having difficulty adjusting themselves with the change of their status. I guess, every person wants a successful family life. A family that is complete, stable and happy. That is the ideal family. Hmmm.. That makes me think.. Would I be able to hang on? Would I be strong enough to stick it out through thick and thin? Deep inside, I still don't know if I'm one of those who would put everything at stake just to keep the family intact. I grew up in a closely knitted family. We love spending time with each other.. my father and mother playing mah-jongg and us, lazing around! Hehehe! We might not be rich, but we are happy. We have our complaints about one another and we talk about that when it's time for sibling bashing. We have dreams for one another which is really cool.

My father and mother's married life is not perfect too.. They have their arguments and they do fight. The reason of their fight is usually my Tatay's grouchiness. He is masungit! My mother is a nag.. but she knows when to shut up. During their fights, My father wouldn't say anything at all and stay quiet. But those usually it would last for a couple of hours and they'll be back in each others' arms again! =) Though there was once a violent fight, my mother inflicting bodily harm on my father. But 'twas a long long time ago-- I was a kid then. My Father and mother's family life is not a fairy tale. There were lots of obstacles.. But somehow they were able to overcome them. My Tatay and Nanay are together for 33 years. =)

Getting pregnant is not a permission to become a wife.